What I am about to talk about today is not only for blogging but for many other things we want to do in life but sometimes get caught up with everything going around us.
I will break it down to what has worked for me, and what I am still working on.
Here are the things which has made me really LOVE who I am.
1. This is the biggest one – DON’T COMPARE!!!
Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of your life. I hear this a lot, “When I see better pictures or posts than mine, I feel bad about my work”. This basically says, something I was really proud and happy about suddenly turned into sadness because I saw a similar thing someone else do better. Sure to have goals, big dreams or role models whose work you admire, but to feel sad or bad about your own work won’t get you there, it will only hold you back. It’s none of your business what others are doing, focus on yourself and enjoy what you are doing. You’re different from the rest and make sure you stay true to yourself, that’s the only way you will stand out. If you keep comparing, you will never be internally happy or satisfied with the life you have. Remember, you are more than enough. Comparison is a disease, don’t catch it. Embrace your uniqueness and appreciate others.
2. Let go of self-depreciating
What you tell yourself and others daily is very powerful. If you keep telling yourself, “ahh I suck at this” or “ I can never do this” that thought will stick with you and others you’re sharing this with. It is only natural at times, we make fun of ourselves, but if this is something you do all the time, you might want to think how it impacts you and others around you. You want to be a positive and happy blogger who influences other? We first must learn how to be better on what we say about ourselves. I always said this to my bff, “hey don’t I look so pretty?”. She would laugh at me, and say “you really love yourself”. I would say “hell yes!”. Nothing looks good more on a body than self-confidence. As a blogger, there are many times each week my pictures don’t come out the way I want them, but when I would see the same type of post on other blogs, I won’t even notice those details that I would notice on mine. I was extra critical of my own work. I told myself STOP this. Trust me this has made my photo shoots more fun and shorter so I enjoy my time with my husband more instead of trying to get the perfect shot!!! Remember what you are trying to achieve is not perfection, it is for you to be YOU!! Like Sand Cisnerous once said, “be obsessed with becoming a woman comfortable in her own skin”.
3. Do things you LOVE
You’ve heard this many times, but it is not as easy as you think. “Either you run the day, or the day runs you” – Jim Rohn. Make time for you throughout the day, stop all things you are doing and enjoy that cup of coffee and let go of all the thoughts that have occupied your mind. Just do this 5-10 mins a day, trust me it has made a huge difference in my day. If you are a blogger, follow time management, try not to be on the phone or laptop all day, do things you love outside of blogging too, and then write about them if you would like. One of my favorite things to do is to take my dog harry for walks in the evening when all my neighbors are outside. I just love watching everyone outside, it reminds me of my childhood. One of the most important thing is to stop complaining about all the little things you have to do in a day. I try my hardest not to do this, because it will only make the things I love more like a job than my passion. There is no point of doing things, if you only catch yourself stressing about it. Then it is certainly not the thing you love. Take time out for YOU, to go to the park, or catch up on your favorite shows. Share your thoughts about time off with your IG family. In the end, remember do things you love with love.
I will continue to add more on this list, but for now I want you to take in only these three things. Give it a try for at least 4 weeks. Love yourself, while you have still got the chance.
I have been reading a book called “you are a badass” by Jen Sincero. She has reminded me of things above and more. If you haven’t checked out her book, surely do so. I love her already!!
Sharing my two looks from this past weekend.